How to gain instant appreciation from your kids!

Stay in bed all day!  No, seriously, being bed ridden & totally wiped out by a sneaky virus is a sure way to get your kids realising how much you actually do for them & as much as you feel like protesting at times, being in bed all day as a result of being sick isn’t my idea of a lie-in.

You know that feeling when everything hurts, your head is pounding & your chest is on fire. Being asthmatic just makes the situation ten times worse. The times you’ve hit the snooze button at least four times. The long drawn out sleepless nights & constant sleep deprivation & longed so much to just lie in bed all day then you get hit with sickness & feel like your entire body is being pounded. You’re far too unwell to lap this up, it’s no fun & there are a million things to do!

Now of course your kids appreciate you in real life! My last post about Mother’s day showed that,but as a single mum doing as much as possible to keep everything a float, it’s so easy to get taken advantage of. We go out of our way, let boundaries be crossed, over compensate with treats & so on. As soon as we are not physically able to do our normal routine, our children notice.

Dishes get washed, basic food gets made, it’s amazing what they can find to eat when there’s not a lot in the cupboards. Of course nothing goes simply & it had to go & snow again making the roads too dangerous to walk on, so my eldest couldn’t even pop up to the shops to get some essentials!

What I needed more than ANYTHING was ibuprofen or paracetamol, she’s not even old enough to buy it anyway. I rarely take medicine, so if I need it, it’s bad.

My middle daughter practically bathed me in essential oils in the hope it would help but in sheer desperation, I literally crawled downstairs to rummage through the medicine cupboard & hallelujah! I found an old bottle of 6+ calpol!

To say it’s disgusting is an understatement, imagine orange flavour jelly poured into a blender mixed with a bag of sugar & served at room temperature sucked through a syringe. Rank! But this is how desperate I was to take the edge off. Considering I have an annual flu vaccination, this isn’t even full pelt!

Don’t get me wrong, there are still arguments & meltdowns going on. My son still isn’t sleeping through the night but I could barely open my eyes.

I’m in day four of it now, it’s like being in a prison within a prison. But I’ve certainly had some time to ponder & what I’ve learnt whilst being incapacitated is this;


Good food & nutrition is vital! Running here, there & everywhere, little sleep, working, trying to balance EVERYTHING without anyone to step in & help means it’s so easy to opt for the quick meals & junk food. There’s been far too much of it lately & I’m desperate to get that good feeling, high energy vibe back for me & the kids.

Self-Care is paramount! If the kids have managed whilst you are sweating it out in bed then they can certainly manage if you go & sweat out a run, or a walk,or ANY kind of ME time. Remember, a happier, fitter, healthier you gives them the BEST version of you. Life is too short to not look after yourself & trying to fit everything in, burning both ends of the candle is going to give your immune system a run for it’s money. Rest when you need to. make lists & time block. Don’t stress if it doesn’t get done today.

The House will be fine! It’s amazing how quickly it becomes a pig sty, but once you are better, tackle it in small chunks & get the kids to help! You have the advantage here…they CAN do it & if they refuse, well, GO TO BED!

Have a healthy week.

Jane x




  1. Terrence Jackson

    March 21, 2018 at 02:57

    Ohh my that was quite a rollercoaster ride you have been on. I don’t know what 6+calpol is and from your description I hope I never have to find out, YIKES! (though I am happy it was there to help you). I am so sorry to hear that you are so sick, but I am sure it was quite a relief to know that the ship didn’t sink without you steering it lol. While I know it’s not the ideal way you would like to have spent the past few days it’s good that you were able to take some time to ponder about your home life. Part of making sure you give your children the BEST you possible is kicking that nasty virus!! Single mothers don’t get the credit they deserve, so I just want to say you are doing a GREAT job!! I hope you get to feeling better soon. P.s. You are doing really well with these blogs, keep it up! :))

    1. admin

      March 21, 2018 at 21:52

      Thank you so much for your kind words of support, Terrence. It’s so appreciated. I’m on the end finally & definitely reflecting on the posiitves! 🙂

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